Individual Counselling and Psychotherapy in Milton Keynes
Counselling for Men in Milton Keynes and Online
Finding it hard to talk?
Maybe you’ve been telling yourself to just get on with it. Sleeping badly, snapping at people you care about, drinking a bit more than you’d like, or feeling flat and not quite sure why.
Plenty of men carry things on their own for a long time before they say anything to anyone. You don’t need the right words, or to have it all worked out. You can come just as you are.
What men often come to counselling for
- Stress, pressure at work and burnout
- Anxiety, constant worry or panic
- Low mood, or feeling numb and going through the motions
- Anger or a short fuse
- Relationship difficulties or a breakup you’re dealing with on your own
- Feeling not good enough, or waiting to be found out
- Feeling stuck or unsure what comes next
Why it can be harder for men
Many men grow up hearing that they should be strong, cope, and not make a fuss. Those messages can make it hard to notice what you’re feeling, let alone say it out loud.
When feelings don’t get said, they tend to show up somewhere else: in sleep, temper, drinking, health or relationships. None of this means something is wrong with you. Often it’s a nervous system that has been on high alert for too long, and it can learn to settle again.
How I work with men
Sessions are practical and down to earth. We go at your pace, and you decide what we talk about. My approach is person-centred and pluralistic, so we find together what helps you most. Being polyvagal-informed, I also pay attention to how your body responds to stress, not just your thoughts.
Before becoming a counsellor I spent nearly 20 years in IT leadership, and I’ve been through hard times of my own. I know what it’s like to keep going when you’re running on empty, and how big a step it can feel to ask for help.
How counselling can help
Together we'll:
- make sense of what's been building up, and why
- notice the patterns that keep you stuck or shut down
- find practical ways to handle stress, anger or worry that fit real life
- work out what you want to change, at home, at work and in yourself
Once things start to be said out loud, many men find they feel lighter, think more clearly and feel more like themselves again.
What to expect
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Free 20-minute chat
Online or in person, to talk about what's brought you here and whether we're a good fit.
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Sessions
55 minutes, £60 – in person in Broughton Gate, Milton Keynes, or online anywhere in the UK.
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Regular reviews
We check in regularly to make sure counselling is helping.
NCPS Accredited Counsellor · Polyvagal-Informed Practitioner
I’m not able to respond to messages urgently. If you’re in crisis, please call NHS 111 (option 2 for mental health), contact Samaritans free on 116 123, or call 999 in an emergency.
Other support for men
Together we'll:
Counselling isn’t the only kind of support. These free national services are there whenever you need them:
- CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably): free helpline on 0800 58 58 58 and webchat, open every evening
- Cruse Bereavement Support: support if you’re grieving
- Men’s Advice Line: confidential support for men experiencing domestic abuse
Once things start to be said out loud, many men find they feel lighter, think more clearly and feel more like themselves again.
Read more about men’s mental health
- 5 Common Mental Health Problems Men Face
- What are the signs, symptoms and causes of male anxiety?
- Exploring the Dangers of Bottling Up Emotions in Men
- Shattering Stigma: Empowering Men to Seek Help
- The Ripple Effect: Men’s Mental Health, Relationships and Work
- Exploring the Challenges of Men’s Mental Health
- How Counselling Can Help Men Thrive After a Breakup
- It’s Okay to Not Be Okay: A Story of My Mental Health Recovery